Random calls from family members are never good…especially when they need people who are currently out of town. As well as being garbled, the caller being somewhat unrecognizable to the point that you need to confirm their identity, and them being very unclear as to what they want just that they want anyone else other than the people that are currently around and available. So then you need to send out the bat signal via phone and any other social media they have hoping they call back in a timely manner before everyone goes out of their mind waiting for a call back.
Thankfully we only had to wait 15 mins to pass the message along that this caller needed them. Only to find out that an elderly family member is in the hospital and their spouse needs some help at home and it can wait a few days. Ok…..so we wait and we all get in the car because to all of us the person on the other end sounds bad too so 4 people helping out is better than 1 or 2 so off we went for a drive down the road. I was stocked with my meds and pillow for a longer drive. Everyone of us, eager to see what was going on over there. Upon arrival no one was home even though we call and told them we were coming. I went over to the neighbors place asking if they had seen him. Told her who I was and relief spread over this lady’s face like you would not believe. She said I have been looking for you! Huh??? Well these family members like to have their privacy respected and we don’t come around much. We see them maybe once a year but he comes down our way plays golf and goes home. But this year he has been taking care of his wife and we hear he was trying to get her into a long term care home and that was all up until now. She says he’s in a big decline and his spouse as well. We find a note stating he’s gone to hospital. What a relief to find him there !! But to the neighbour’s point, there was a big decline as he was taking care of her and not himself. When asked questions there would be one word answers. Definitely not the same person we know and love…so we need to look into getting help for him. His wife unfortunately is not eating so there’s nothing that can be done there. We help out with the things needed and set off home our hearts saddened as to what we have seen our minds whirling at what things we need to set in place to help out. That being said, out of the 4 of us 2 are working, I am at home and my mom is elderly and not about to be scouring the “www.” anytime soon to find the support systems needed. I call and get updates from the hospital everyday. Guess who the calling, researching and scouring the ‘www’ falls to?. Well me of course ! I love this reasoning –because you are doing nothing at home! Yup uh huh!!! Me, the stupid one goes and actually does it out of guilt. While the giant matzo ball of stress just keeps on growing over top of me.
Conversation at physio is interesting. He can tell something is up by the way I’m walking etc…..he’s got me figured out. How was your weekend? Great! Super! Fantastic! Oh boy, he says all that sarcasm, please tell me more!! All right it was a cluster F*$K !!! That Great? Tell me? I give him the reader’s digest version while he checks my ROM which is pretty much messed up royally (due to all the stress) and he hems and haws and stretches and tapes me up as the current situation is on going so we will need extra reinforcement for this week..
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