Whoever came up with the saying that bad things happen in 3’s was spot on! While I am trying to get educated about the world of seniors, psw’s, long term care, retirement homes etc, etc… My Sister in law tells me that her uncle has passed away (#2)….deep breath. I didn’t know him but I am not heartless or unfeeling and I do know the family, and it puts more stress on her and my brother and that means they are focusing on that and not on bad thing #1 so that means more worrying and more on my shoulders. However, she does call and tells me that once she returns she will be able to assist with getting things organized with the other upon her return. Or if need be driving back and forth to make arrangements for certain things. I said, “ Ok great sounds good, be safe. send my condolences along to the rest of your family”. Then thing #3 happens. The dreaded phone call during the night. I honestly thought it was a call letting us know that our hospitalized elderly family member passed. Nope, I get woken up by my husband and through my slumbering haze…I understood a friend is sick…same thing as before they need help. I’m like what??? Seriously? I couldn’t even dress myself properly! My mind is thinking of 1000 things and trying to dress is not one of them. He’s not going because he’s got to go to work in the morning and I don’t. So off I went to assess the situation. I get to the house and he’s on the couch all hot and wet, dark as night in the house and he doesn’t want any lights on as he has heightened light sensitivity at this time. I get cold compresses for his head, and he is so dizzy and weak he cannot stand. He has some other stuff going on as well so I ask the question, do you want to go to the hospital? Nobody ever wants to go there……and I have been in the same situation of being on the teeter totter and waffling whether to go or not. Not really, so we waited a bit and then his symptoms got worse and he asked me to go to hospital. So I called 911 and spent the night with him in the hospital. We didn’t get home until 9 am and by then you can’t sleep at all because you have gone past many thresholds. But I need to wake up and function in the early morning because I am going wedding dress shopping. Which has been booked for a long time.
So I packed my pillow and blanket for the drive and off we bumbled down the road with the girls for a trip wedding dress shopping. I have no idea what gear I was in by this time but we all had fun. The bride said “Yes! To a dress”. While I was there hubby and I met up to go check on the elderly family members that asked for help he was much improved to the point that it gave me a lot of relief that I didn’t need to arrange for PSW’s to come out to his home and unfortunately she is still in hospital not eating. It’s just a matter of time before she leaves us. When it rains it pours….
Needless to say it’s been extremely stressful and I can just feel the bricks sitting on my neck and shoulders. I still go and see my mom on Sunday and she kindly makes us lunch but at this point the lack of sleep and stress are just weighing on me and all I want to do is go home and relax. I have been doing everything but that and everyone else is just sunshine and rainbows so when I say ok let’s go home and my mom asks me to do one more thing i snap and quickly reign it in. Turns into a mini argument and then on the way home hubby says something and I snap at him…I take a breath and reply in a calmer manner and get home and just spend the day on the couch at home doing nothing! When we are asked to go over to my brothers for fire and beer I sent him. I told him to go and have a beer, and just leave me. All I am going to do is sit here and try to relax and get to bed early. Thankfully he did just that! Usually he stays and babysits me. Which drives me gaga!
The next day same thing. I still need time to just chill and that is exactly what I did. I feel a bit better but still not great. But back into the fold of the world I must go…..taa daa world! I’m back!
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